Encouraging men to seek support
Dying Matters Awareness Week 2021
This week is Dying Matters Awareness Week, a campaign that aims to open up honest conversations surrounding death, dying and bereavement.
Around a third of the adults and children who come to CancerCare for support do so as they are struggling to cope with grief caused by the loss of a loved one and we have seen an increase in demand for this kind of help over the last 12 months.
We asked Helen Fry, one of our specialist counsellors, how talking therapy can help someone who has been bereaved.
“None of us exist in isolation. Our connections with our family, friends and the wider world form part of who we are. When someone you love dies it can feel as though a part of you is gone. And this can be utterly disorienting. Some people describe feeling as though they are in an alien unfamiliar landscape, or that they feel flung around in a whirlpool of grief. Others may feel nothing, just numb, or angry, or guilty. Or all of the above within a short space of time. Grief comes in many guises.
“Having time with a counsellor, someone who is not part of your everyday life can provide an anchor. A steady weekly space gives you time to make sense of all that you are experiencing. Being heard and understood and accepted no matter what can release some of the pressure, like easing the top off a bottle of pop that’s been shaken up.
“With the additional pressures and constraints of Covid and lockdown when many of the things that would normally steady us and help us through are not available to us, the process of grieving, managing daily life and healing can be even more overwhelming. If you are struggling to cope with the death of someone close to you Cancer Care may be able to help, so please don’t hesitate to get in touch.”
(image courtesy of the Lancaster Guardian)